It seems a normal response to the question, “How are you doing?” is “I’m so busy…” Why do we make ourselves so busy that we don’t have time for our families, our mates, or ourselves?
I’m not sure if you have noticed it, but with all our digital toys, TV shows, and work, we rarely make time for our family and friends to just sit and talk. You know getting into deep conversations with each other. I’m talking the types of conversations where you ask questions (or get asked questions) that make you think deeply before you answer and the answer isn’t so short as, “I’m well, thanks.” These are not the how’s the weather or how’s your week been types of questions.
When is the last time you sat down with anyone significant in your life and had a deep conversation? Asking or being asked questions like “What do you think about _______?”, “How did you get started in _____?”, “How did you end up ______?”, or “Why do you do what you do?”, will help build a deep conversation.
Have you ever been around someone who you thought was just so amazing to be around? Do you know why you thought that? Generally, we think of people who were great to be around because they asked us a lot of questions or they shared something very important to our own belief system. I have a mate who always asked questions of everyone he is around and rarely talks about himself unless asked a direct question. Even then he will answer the question and ask someone else a question right away. It’s amazing.
I suggest trying to put the devices down and have a real conversation with a loved one and connect with another human being. Life is much better when you can connect with others.
Who’s the next significant person in your life you can set aside everything else that keeps you so busy and have a meaningful conversation with? Make the choice to not be so busy and connect with them and nourish your soul!
